Remember back when you were a kid? You would just do things. You never thought to yourself, “What are the relative merits of learning baseball versus football?” You just ran around the playground and played baseball and football. You built sand castles and played tag and asked silly questions and looked for bugs and dug up grass and pretended you were a sewer monster.Nobody told you to do it, you just did it. You were led merely by your curiosity and excitement.
And the beautiful thing was, if you hated baseball, you just stopped playing it. There was no guilt involved. There was no arguing or debate. You either liked it or you didn’t.
And if you loved looking for bugs, you just did that. There was no second-level analysis of, “Well, is looking for bugs really what I should be doing with my time as a child? Nobody else wants to look for bugs, does that mean there’s something wrong with me? How will looking for bugs affect my future prospects?”
There was no drama. If you liked something, you just did it.
“HOW DO I FIND MY PASSION?”
People ask all the time what to do with their life, what they could do, where they could start, where to “find their passion.”
But that’s the whole point — “not knowing” is the whole point. Life is all about not knowing, and then doing something anyway. All of life is like this. All of it. And it’s not going to get any easier just because you found out you love your job cleaning septic tanks or you scored a dream gig writing movies.
The common complaint among a lot of these people is that they need to “find their passion.”
You already found your passion, you’re just ignoring it. Seriously, you’re awake 16 hours a day, what do you do with your time? You’re doing something, obviously. You’re talking about something. There’s some topic or activity or idea that dominates a significant amount of your free time, your conversations, your web browsing, and it dominates them without you consciously pursuing it or looking for it.
It’s right there in front of you, you’re just avoiding it. For whatever reason, you’re avoiding it. You’re telling yourself, “Oh well, yeah, I love comic books but that doesn’t count. You can’t make money with comic books.”
Have you even tried to take action?
The problem is not a lack of passion for something. The problem is PRODUCTIVITY. The problem is PERCEPTION. The problem is ACCEPTANCE. The problem is the, “Oh, well that’s just not a realistic option,” or “Mom and Dad would kill me if I tried to do that, they say I should be a doctor,” or “That’s crazy, you can’t buy a Ferrari with the money you make doing that.”
The problem isn’t passion. It’s never passion. It’s about PRIORITIES.
And even then, who says you need to make money doing what you love? Since when does everyone feel entitled to love every second of their job? Really, what is so wrong with working an okay, normal job with some cool people you like and then pursuing your passion in your free time on the side? Has the world turned upside-down or is this not suddenly a novel idea to people?
Look, here’s another slap in the face for you: every job sucks sometimes. There’s no such thing as some passionate activity that you will never get tired of, never get stressed over, never complain about. It doesn’t exist. Like a kid on a playground you just have to go and try it, and still hate about 30% or more of it. That’s just life.
If you think you’re supposed to wake up every single day dancing out of your pajamas because you get to go to work, then you’ve been drinking the Kool-Aid. Life doesn’t work like that. It’s just unrealistic. There’s a thing most of us need called balance.
YOUR PASSION IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU
If you’re passionate about something, it will already feel like such an ingrained part of your life that you will have to be reminded by people that it’s not normal, that other people aren’t passionate about that "thing" as you are.
A child does not walk onto a playground and say to herself, “How do I find fun?” She/He just goes and has fun.
If you have to look for what you enjoy in life, then you’re not going to enjoy anything.
You probably already enjoy many things in life. You’re just choosing to ignore them.
A hearty thank you to Mark Manson who created this very insightful article. See full article here